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Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over 2 years and we are of different races. She is in a house of strict religion where the man should ask her parents for her hand in marriage etc. and she been told repeatedly not to see or date me anymore but we still do. Her father and a few aunts already know that she wants to leave but her mom and other aunts already stated they will refuse to let her go. After finding out that her aunts have talked with her mom about trying to kill me if she leaves or as of right now she is piss scared of leaving because she says they will never stop trying to find us. How do we find a peaceful resolution so that we can still enjoy our love and not risk anything with her family or our lives? Ryan Sorry, Ryan, but I don't really see a "peaceful resolution" in your situation. You and your girlfriend are attempting to buck the system, one that pulls at your girlfriend in a direction opposite from you. While I'm not saying that I agree with how her family is behaving (or threatening), you have to understand that she has known them her whole life versus only knowing you for two years. So their pull is much stronger than yours. Given the circumstances you describe with your girlfriend and her family, I wonder what her motives are in dating you. Might she be rebelling? Might she be wanting to send a message to her family that she may not be able to send verbally? On the other hand, it's possible that she is truly conflicted about the demands of her culture and religion and being with you presents the pathway for her desire to escape. Unfortunately, it's not an easy escape, as the two of you have found out.
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